There are some people out there, too often other women and mothers, who place judgment on women who choose to have a family and then dare to voice their dissatisfaction with a broken system. Instead, we bully each other and make each other feel like shit when what we should be doing is working together to change the system. Many women love their careers and pride themselves on the hard work they put in to get where they are, those same women often want families and are left wondering how they can possibly have both. Not every woman wants to give up their career after starting a family. In other cases, families are faced with the decision about whether it is financially possible to return to work because of insane child care costs. The problem isn’t that mother’s want to “have it all”, it’s that they’re forced to make tough decisions based on fear and finances.