For all you people out there that have a best friend that is a billion miles away from you, this one’s for you.
I was lucky enough to be granted my best friend before I was even born. Our mothers met when they were 14 years old and have been inseparable since. So I mean I was destined to be best friends with this girl. I am an only child so she is the sister I never had. Sisters by chance, friends by choice!!
For the majority of our lives we never really lived that close to each other, but that changed in high school. My best friend lived 20 minutes away from me….which also meant our mothers lived 20 minutes away from each other. So basically we saw each other all the time. You would think after having a friend that isn’t in your life a lot would get really irritating being over all the time, at least for an only child, but no. During this short period our friendship grew stronger and closer than ever before. With her being 3 years older than me, it took a long time for us to go through similar life situations. So her moving close during high school was basically the perfect scenario. We grew so close because we had finally been through the same stuff; boys, middle school, all the fun stuff that being a teenager brings. We talked about all of this stuff as it was happening to me and she really helped me get through the hardest parts of high school.
Now here is where the long-distance kicks in.
She is only one grade ahead of me, and we had the plan to go to college together. You know like Miley and Lilly did on Hannah Montana? We had the school, dorm, plans, everything made up. We were beyond so excited to be able to have this journey together.
But that face about sums it up. Things got in the way and that didn’t end up happening. Now we go to schools that are 11 hours apart and I get to see her maybe twice a year (if I’m lucky). Yeah that’s better than literally never seeing her but going from never seeing her, to seeing her all of the time, to never seeing here again is pretty tough. I mean its sad. We had all of these plans to do together and now we are lucky if our school breaks are at the same time so we can see each other. Its okay I still love her to death though.
Here are the things that help get us through it:
Remember they are your best friend and they will always be there for you.
No matter how far y’all may be, they are still your best friend. Yeah they may not be able to be there in person for you, but they are always the first ones to pick up the phone when you need them. They drop everything, even if they are about to go out, just to talk you through it.
If you realized you haven’t talked to them in a while, give them a random shoutout. I promise they will love it just as much as you. And if you are anything like me and my best friend, we don’t call each other for like a month and then when we call we talk for like 3 hours straight. Sometimes just hearing their voice makes them seem not so far away.
Plan future plans
It makes it so much more exciting when you have something to look forward to with your best friend when y’all do get the chance to see each other. As great as it is to just see them, which it is totally awesome, planning something makes it seem so much more official that you get to see them and that’s the best part.
Make the person miss you when you are missing them. Don’t be miserable missing your best friend by yourself, post a picture of one of the best times y’all had and make them wish they were with you too. Trust me it’s funny cause they get mad that you made them upset and then you laugh about it with them and then things are better again. (see how that works).
Send sporadic goofy videos to each other.
One of your best friend’s favorite things about you is your goofiness. Send them a video of doing something silly and eventually you’ll be having a war over who’s being the dumbest. Its pretty fun and helps you remember your favorite things about the person. Me and my best friend are the craziest bunch I think anyone I know has ever met. Be proud of that!
Come up with an awesome duo name
Luckily my best friend and I are a brunette and blonde duo so we live for the “every brunette needs her blonde best friend.” But really making yourself a duo makes your friendship so much more official, and lets all their friends at their other schools (that think they are their best friends but they will never be as close as y’all) know that you are irreplaceable and you are claiming your territory that you are their best friend and they need to back off HAHA. Also, it makes y’all even cuter friends than y’all already are!
I love you best friend, no matter how far!