How to spot a sexual predator: Psychologist breaks down 8 classic warning signs – and how to protect yourself


Cara Delevingne, a 25-year-old British model and actress, is among the stars in a series of sexual harassment allegations against Harvey Weinstein, claiming he attempted to kiss her and coerce her into having a threesome in a hotel room.

In an Instagram post, Cara explained she ‘felt very powerless and scared’ in the situation but managed to escape.

The 65-year-old film producer has been sacked from The Weinstein Company, which he co-founded, following a string of more than 30 accusations, which include rapes that date back decades.

Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, Asia Argento, Ashley Judd, Rose McGowan, Rosanna Arquette and many more are among the celebrities who have come forward, and Ambra Battilana Gutierrez, an Italian model, even recorded the mogul confessing to groping her in a undercover operation with the New York Police two years ago.

The allegations over the past week were prompted after an exposé in the New York Times on October 5 revealed at least eight settlements have been made with women in the past three decades.

Whilst Weinstein ‘unequivocally denied’ any non-consensual sex, he said, ‘I appreciate the way I’ve behaved with colleagues in the past has caused a lot of pain, and I sincerely apologize for it,’ whilst he reportedly has escaped to sex addiction rehab.

His wife, Georgina Chapman, co-founder of Marchesa Designs has left him, describing his actions as ‘unforgivable’.

Considering recent events, it is timely to uncover just who a sexual predator is, in both straight and same sex relationships.

How to spot a sexual predator

‘They can wield a lot of control and power,’ says therapist Leonie Adamson who has 10 years clinical practice and specializes in sexual abuse.

‘But the most interesting thing to consider is why they don’t stand out from the crowd. Often people will talk about them being creepy or lecherous, but without any substantive information, there is no real proof.

‘Some people will know only too well what they are capable of, such as the celebrities that have come forward about Harvey Weinstein, but won’t want to ‘rock the boat’, perhaps fearful of any repercussions this may have on them.’

‘I have counseled many women who have experienced sexual trauma. They have been emotionally scarred, lost their sense of identity, and live with the experience every single day’, says Leonie.

‘It starts with the cycle of abuse and very quickly becomes a nightmare, from which there is no escape. Using words and actions, the predator will undermine her every move, dictate every thought and in the end, he will have ultimate power and control over her everyday life.

‘In many cases, victims weren’t believed, and this has caused them further distress. In some cases, they have come from abusive families themselves and their sense of self-worth is so low, that they feel they deserve to be treated badly.

‘However, because the sexual predator flourishes in silence and covert behavior, the mask must be uncovered to help free victims from this abuse. Their voices must be heard and respected. Always.’

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3 thoughts on “How to spot a sexual predator: Psychologist breaks down 8 classic warning signs – and how to protect yourself

    • Hello Reena, I will summarise them for you here:

      1 They can wield a lot of control and power.
      2 They don’t stand out from the crowd.
      3 Often people talk about the predator’s behavior but there is never any real proof to substantiate the comments.
      4 Some people know what they are capable of but they won’t speak up for fear of the consequences.
      5 Women who have experienced sexual trauma by a predator, are emotionally scarred (think of two or more friends who happen to have had contact with the same man, is there a pattern in his behavior when your friends talk about him?
      6 They use a cycle of abuse starting with words and actions that undermine the victims, dictate what they think, and control their life.
      7 They pray on women who have a low sense of self-worth.
      8 They flourish in silence and covert behavior.

      I hope this summary helps you?

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