Often times, when people encourage others to look for the silver lining of the situation, they talk about how things could be worse.
“You could be starving and living on the streets.” “It could have been broken.” “Some people don’t even have a car.”
The notion that I, or anyone, can take comfort in the fact that others are suffering behooves me. Poverty is a terrible world problem, it needs to be solved, and I refuse to revel in the fact that some people can’t even get clean water everyday. That breaks my heart. That doesn’t, and shouldn’t, lift my spirits.
Also, if I have to measure the value of my life based on the fact that I don’t have [insert deadly illness here,] that’s one sad life. I’d like to think I have more to live for than the absence of suffering.
This summer, I underwent jaw surgery and was completely unable to open my mouth in any whatsoever, I installed a test to speech app on my phone, for an entire week. Then, I was unable to chew solid food for another six weeks.
If this was my idea of human suffering, I wouldn’t have been able to endure the recovery and never would have been cured of my TMJ problems. (I’m not afraid of yawning anymore because the pain is finally gone!)
That’s why I always try to consider future benefits in the face of hard times. Occasionally, the process to a better quality of life is painful and difficult and there shouldn’t be anything wrong with that. No health problem or financial condition or whatnot should be demonized to the point that it’s intolerable because any one of us could end up in that situation one day.
Another way I like to look to the bright side is to consider what positive things I already have in my life. Yes, I craved any and all solid food 100% of the time, but I was able to walk to the bathroom by myself, I could brush, speak, and eat without a syringe.
(Admittedly, I took all of those things for granted before the surgery.) However, regaining those capabilities transcended my craving for solid food. I took it one meal at a time and, now, I’m happily munching away on whatever my heart desires.
I’ve found that this second method also happens to induce gratitude and that’s all for the better. The main point is that there are healthy ways to cope with adversity, but the “it could be worse” excuse isn’t one of them.
How do you lovelies deal with hardships? Let me know in the comments below and don’t forget to check out my my blog for more like what you just read.