When you know, you know. When you’ve put everything into your relationship and somehow suddenly it all goes spiraling out of control, you need to know that it is not down to you. When you have adapted and changed and taken on things which interest your partner to help them feel comfortable and purposeful, you should know you’ve done everything you can.
You are only one person and you can not be the world to someone else, they have to take responsibility for themselves as a grown up person. You try and make things better for them but they flinch when faced with difficulties.
When you feel worried about expressing any emotions which are negative, you know that you you are not in the wrong. People feel sad, upset, frustrated and down sometimes, it’s normal to feel these emotions sometimes. You shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for feeling these emotions and you shouldn’t feel afraid to express them, especially to your loved one. I’m actually a pretty upbeat and sunny person in general but right now my overriding emotion is disappointment.
Sometimes people have ridiculous expectations of how a relationship should be. It’s not always hearts and flowers and happy bunnies. Sometimes the bunny is worried or anxious and could do with some reassurance and comfort. Not to be made to feel like they are a burden.
When you acknowledge your flaws and weaknesses but your partner picks up on them and uses them against you, knowingly or unknowingly, you start you realise that this person is not a force for positivity and self acceptance in your life.
Sometimes someone is a good influence for another person whereas they are more of a negative influence. But it’s hard to let go of the negative influence because they made you feel warm and special and sparks fly between you still. There is an undeniable electricity between you which has existed since the beginning and you ache to feel it again and again.
When you know it’s time to let go, you know. They need to go away and have experiences and find out how their behaviour impacts others. They need to learn how to treat the ones they love like they love and care for them not with spite and anger or complacence or ungratefulness. Let them go and maybe when they come back to you in the future they will be a person with the qualities that you tried to bestow upon them.
Time to let go, for now.