We’ve been taught many things by our parents, teachers and role models throughout our lives. How to talk or how to eat with a spoon, how to carry the 1 or grow mould for science, and we’ve even been shown (well most of us I would hope) the right and wrong way to treat another living being.
Our minds can hold all this information plus so much more, but there is one thing many of us have never been taught or had the chance to grasp, and that is self love.
Growing up I had no faith in myself. No faith that I could kick the ball properly in PE or no faith that I would be able to finish the speech in front of the class. This lack of confidence often was rewarded with a bad outcome. As I got older I just spent my time worrying about those things I had no control over rather than installing the confidence in myself to overcome these worries.
Part of my anxiety stemmed from this lack of love for myself. To others and then to myself, I wasn’t smart enough, I looked funny (I was/am extremely hairy and had funny teeth), I spoke funny (I had a lisp), I acted like a boy… the list could go on with all the doubts I had in myself.
If I had loved myself would these things concern me? Would I care what others thought if I accepted myself for my flaws and all? I don’t believe I would be such an anxious person if someone had shown me it was ok, it wasn’t conceded and it was important to have faith, have confidence and have love for yourself.
So on that note, if you choose to install a little bit of kindness into the world today, turn it towards yourself. Give yourself a compliment for finishing that task at work, for having perfect eyebrows today, for getting the kids to school on time. Know that you need to nurture your soul in order to shine.
If you lack this self love, I can’t tell you exactly how to get it because I am working on it myself… but I would start today by reminding yourself you’re here and you’re strong for being here.
I’m writing this quickly from the comfort of my dressing gown because I had a little bit of an epiphany. Maybe this might spark some self love because I know how sometimes you need it desperately.
Have a beautiful day, love Teigan.