Schism: a split or division between strongly opposed sections or parties, caused by differences in opinion or belief.
The world seems to be confused, angry and hurt; and whether it’s asking for it or not, what the world needs right now is more love. More light. More hope. A pathway to serenity.
A few months ago, I deleted all of my social media accounts because all I saw on my newsfeed were posts about what was wrong with the world. It was toxic, and it was beginning to infiltrate every thought in my head. After about a month of being without social media, I began to notice that I started to feel happier. Sure, a few people posted about what they loved about the world, but it wasn’t fierce love. What I mean by that is simple: it was easy to persuade those people to take back their love for the world by giving them (bad) examples that would outweigh any good they saw.
I learned that what people and the world need is fierce love. Love that says: “I love you, fellow human, and I’ll love you no matter what they say about you; because that’s how strong my love for you is. I’m willing to fight for you and help others see that there is good.”
Sure, the world is flawed, but looking for mistakes is a lot easier than finding the good things. No? Think about it. You could receive millions of compliments from family, friends and fans. But then there’s this one person who gives you criticism and out of all the good comments, the one bad comment is the one that stands out the most to you.
With the magic of therapy and insightful introspection, I find that this is a trait that’s innate in all of us humans. It is easier for us to spot the bad rather than the good. From birth, we’re told how to act, what to like and dislike, what society’s definition of beauty is, etc. But what if we start training our mind to ignore the bad and look for the good? What if we said: “I really don’t care what society thinks, this makes me happy so I’m going to do it.” That seems like an incomprehensible concept, right?
Think about it this way. The world is a movie and you’re a character playing the main role in the film. If you don’t like the script, rip it in half and create your own continuation of the story. Remove characters from your storyline that are toxic, create new opportunities for your character. Redefine your character every few months or years. It’s up to you.
There are two sides to every person, whether or not you struggle with depression or other mental health issues. The side of yourself that tells you you’re incapable and unworthy and the one that wants to hug you and say that you’re very much worthy of love and that you’re a lot stronger than you think you are.
If you have to kill a character off from your show, let it be the part of you that hinders your ability to perceive your life and the world around you anything other than a beautiful playground. Be the kid who builds castles in the sand. If some asshole knocks it over, rebuild it and thrive.
And you know what? The asshole who knocks your castle over is probably in need of love too, fellow reader. They may not have had a good upbringing, so maybe instead of writing them out of your story, help their character develop and change from evil to kindhearted. Teach them. I’m sure you’d want someone to do the same for you.
Tonight, before you go to sleep, look in the mirror and say: “I’m fucking unstoppable. I love myself, I’m worthy, and I’ll overcome adversity because I’ve already come this far.” Give yourself a hug. Here’s a free virtual hug for you (and some milk and cookies).