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have you ever felt the sting of someone
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pulling away one moment they're close
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connected warm the next they're gone
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distant cold and you're left wondering
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"What did I do wrong why do I feel so
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rejected?" If you felt this Carl Jung
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would tell you "It's not always about
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you and it's not always what it seems."
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Jung believed that when people pull away
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it often has little to do with what you
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said or did it has everything to do with
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what your presence awakens in them he
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wrote "Everything that irritates us
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about others can lead us to an
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ourselves but it's not just irritation
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it's also fear desire vulnerability and
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sometimes when someone starts to truly
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care it terrifies them so why do they
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really pull away it's because of this
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their own unconscious fears of intimacy
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here's what Yung taught us every person
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carries an inner shadow parts of
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themselves they've disowned fears
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they've buried wounds they've never
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healed and when a relationship starts to
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deepen that shadow begins to surface
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being seen being cared for being
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vulnerable it can trigger feelings of
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unworthiness memories of abandonment
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fears of losing control so instead of
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moving closer they pull away not because
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you're unworthy but because the love or
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closeness they're feeling is waking up
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something they're not ready to face and
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here's where it gets deeper when someone
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pulls away we often react from our own
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shadow we take it personally we spiral
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into self-lame we feel rejected but what
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if it's not rejection what if it's
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reflection jung believed that
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relationships are mirrors when someone's
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distance hurts us deeply it's showing us
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where we still seek validation where we
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still carry wounds around being enough
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where we still fear abandonment so the
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real reason you feel rejected is because
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the other person's pulling away is
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triggering your own old wounds maybe
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from childhood maybe from past
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relationships maybe from a lifetime of
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feeling unseen but here's the truth you
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are not being rejected you are being
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invited to heal what still hurts to face
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what still fears jung wrote "Until you
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make the unconscious conscious it will
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direct your life and you will call it
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if you don't bring awareness to these
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patterns you'll keep attracting
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situations that trigger the same old
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pain so what can you do instead here are
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five healing steps inspired by Young's
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wisdom step one pause and breathe when
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someone pulls away your nervous system
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goes into threat mode before you spiral
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pause breathe remind yourself this is
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about their fear not my worth step two
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reflect on your shadow ask "What part of
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me is so deeply hurt by this distance
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what old stories about rejection are
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being activated where have I felt this
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before?" Often you'll find it's not
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about them it's about what their
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behavior is mirroring in you step three
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see their fear remember pulling away is
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often a defense mechanism it's their way
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of avoiding vulnerability of trying to
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stay safe it's not personal it's not
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proof you're unlovable it's a reflection
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of their own inner struggle step four
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honor your needs it's okay to want
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connection it's okay to feel hurt but
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it's not okay to chase someone who's
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emotionally unavailable jung would
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remind us the privilege of a lifetime is
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to become who you truly
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are don't abandon yourself chasing
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validation from someone who can't give
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it step five choose conscious
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relationships seek out connections where
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vulnerability is welcomed honesty is
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practiced distance isn't used as a
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weapon love is safe not a source of
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anxiety so the next time someone pulls
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away remember it's not a rejection it's
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a revelation a reflection of where they
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are and where you can choose to heal
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jung believed that the path to deep
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fulfilling relationships starts with
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self-awareness when you stop
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personalizing other people's patterns
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you free yourself from endless cycles of
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pain you begin to relate from wholeness
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not woundedness and here's the paradox
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the more whole you become the less you
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chase the less you collapse the less you
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abandon yourself and the more you
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naturally attract relationships rooted
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in truth not fear so today ask yourself
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where am I still taking distance
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personally what old wounds need my
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attention how can I honor my worth no
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matter who pulls away because the love
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you long for will not require you to
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prove your worth it will meet you where
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you already stand jung wrote "Who looks
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outside dreams who looks inside awakes
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awaken to your worth awaken to your
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truth awaken to the love that begins
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within if this message spoke to you
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comment below i choose healing over
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chasing and remember you are not
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rejected you are being redirected to
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deeper love and greater wholeness until
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next time stay conscious stay kind and
