See that picture? That’s my toes. Pointing at a blank spot. A blank spot where my scales have sat since we renovated the bathroom about 12 years ago. (Before that they sat somewhere else…)

For as long as I can remember, I have weighed myself first thing every morning – day in day out. Like clockwork. A special, comforting routine. I’d climb out of bed, empty bladder, strip naked, stare at fateful numbers. I talked about this once before

And for as long as I can remember I have known this is a terrible thing to do. When the numbers go up I panic and make stupid decisions about my eating. When the numbers go down I fear they’ll go back up then I make stupid decisions about my eating. There is no win. There is no time when I look at the numbers and think, Awesome! There are definitely times when I look back and wish I’d appreciated numbers, but I never appreciate them at the time. They are always a stepping stone to a magical place that doesn’t exist – skinny=happy land…

When I started my recovery course about five weeks ago, I made a commitment to drop from daily to weekly weighing. I couldn’t cope with the thought of getting rid of them at the time. I had only in recent months contemplated the thought of not weighing myself daily. Many tiny baby steps! So I dropped to weighing every 7-10 days.

This morning I weighed in. Fateful number was okay. Not up or down. Still not happy with it – I’m quite a bit heavier than I need to be. But I didn’t feel particularly bad about it. I then jumped online and caught up on all the recovery group chat overnight and noticed a lot of discussion about scales. There was some very tough love tossed around – in a beautiful, gentle, empathetic manner – but it was still no bullshit, tough love. And while I hadn’t been the original poster of the scales question, I knew everything being talked about related to me completely…

  • I can’t be dragged over the finish line
  • I can’t be forced to use the tools
  • Nobody else can do the work for me
  • I already know what I need to do
  • I know I need to get rid of the fucking scales
  • I’ll never feel good about getting rid of them
  • Why do I want to weigh myself?
  • What do I hope to gain?
  • What happens when this eight weeks is over?
  • Will this course be something else I tried and failed?

So while I had the strength to do so, I sent my husband a message asking him to hide them away when he got home from work. I could have taken them outside and ceremoniously smashed them to bits, but that seemed very wasteful for rather expensive scales, and also a bit unfair on the rest of the family who do use them from time to time – usually to weigh luggage.

I felt a lot of angst about it all day and weighed myself again at lunchtime – just for old time’s sake. And then when I got home after my appointment this afternoon, the scales were gone. A big empty space where they used to sit. No more weighing…

People have said they are proud of me for doing this. I don’t feel pride. I just feel angst.

How will I know if I’m getting fatter? How will I know if I’m not? What will my new morning routine look like? How will I know what to wear each day? How will I know how much to eat each day?

But I also know, this was a really, really good decision, and it is a decision I will become more comfortable with over time. Change is MEANT to be uncomfortable. I hear that again and again! So this is hugely uncomfortable, and I’ve roped my husband into it and now made a public declaration, so I can’t just unhide them from myself or go buy a new set tomorrow. The longer I go not weighing, the more normal it should become. I guess the answer to the questions above (probably utterly absurd questions in other people’s minds) will become clear over time.

Throwing away the scales is the end of a monumental era for me.

But more than that, I think it indicates really powerfully I have found the path I am supposed to embark upon, and I have started moving forward. I have traversed many roads in the past, and none of them led to anywhere near this kind of improvement – for me they were the wrong road. Or perhaps they were just the little back roads that eventually brought me to the highway. But everything I’m doing now, feels like I am heading in the right direction.

I am making progress. I can’t do it all at once, but I can take each little success as it comes. Has my day been flawless? Not even a little bit. Is my eating disorder in remission? Hardly! Is the removal of my scales a huge step in the right direction? Absolutely 🙂

Responses

  1. Me

    Wow, ive just done EXACTLY the same thing, I used to weigh twice, three times a day, my mood seemed to follow my scales, id chase numbers,

    I’m on day 2 of not weighing, its playing on my mind, but I will remain strong, BE POSTIVE

  2. Lively Life

    Wow- good for you. That’s a step that some of us don’t even have to take but it all comes from the same drive of motivation. Go girl!

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