Getting Lost To Get Found

I’m sure you have all heard the phrase, “get lost”. It is used as a rude way of telling someone to get away from you. Get lost! Scram! Go somewhere, anywhere but here! We can take it as a slight. We can take it as impolite, or mean. To tell someone to get lost implies … Read more

Cozying Up With the Uncomfortable

Think of sometime you were personally uncomfortable; something that didn’t sit right with you. You had an argument with somebody, or a misunderstanding and it was embarrassing. You may feel humiliated or ashamed. It almost makes you sick to your stomach just thinking about it, or you feel your throat closing up. We must use … Read more

Let’s Be Honest

“Let’s be honest here…” “In my honest opinion..” Honesty often must be conjured. Politicians put their hands on a book to conjure honesty. Your parents had to pull the honesty out of you when you were a child. Why does being honest feel like such an enormous weight? With honesty comes accountability. Accountability is the … Read more

Codependency; the story of how we lost and regained our power.

Have you ever had a once in a lifetime opportunity presented before you, and you didn’t take it? How about just any opportunity? The second question is easy; the answer, a resounding YES. The first question is a little harder to discern, people have different interpretations of what that means. Most of our opportunities are … Read more

The Ugly Cloud

I did some visualization at the beginning of my journey to overcome my anxiety. I imagined all the decisions I hadn’t made, all of the thoughts I hadn’t completed, and all of the feelings I hadn’t processed swirling around in this big ugly cloud that hung over me. Whenever it rained from that cloud, it … Read more

The Verbiage of Anxiety

I have written before about the power of the spoken word. I want to talk about the words some of us use that are limiting and keep us in the anxious mindset. We all have faced humiliation at some point. We have expressed an observation or opinion and were told it was wrong. We were … Read more

Who Are You?

I am not who I thought I was. I am not who others think I am. I can be active, spontaneous, and adventurous but my personality makes me feel alone at times. I used to fantasize about driving towards the setting sun as far as I could with the money I had. The horizon is … Read more

Feel For Your Own Sake

I have always wondered, what is it about speaking a certain word that can invoke raw emotion? I can read a poem or a book and it not effect me as much emotionally. However, if I were to reread the same heartfelt poem or powerful passage in a book out loud I find it tends … Read more

Your Commitment Is the Key

I was at the bank some time ago, and I’m standing in line. It’s a Friday afternoon so the line was rather long and so was the wait. Pretty soon some people couldn’t wait any longer and they started to leave. I noticed my place in line moved up significantly. Now I didn’t have to … Read more