73+ Best Byron Katie Quotes: Exclusive Selection

Byron Kathleen Mitchell, better known as Byron Katie, is an American speaker and author who teaches a method of self-inquiry known as “The Work of Byron Katie” or simply as “The Work.” Profoundly inspirational Byron Katie quotes will encourage growth in life, make you wiser and broaden your perspective.

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Famous Byron Katie Quotes

When we question our thoughts, we see that the craziness was never in the world, but in us. — Byron Katie

When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. — Byron Katie

People try so hard to let go of their negative behaviors and thoughts, and it doesn’t work, or it works only for a short time. I didn’t let go of my negative thoughts; I questioned them, and then they let go of me, and so did my addictions and depression. — Byron Katie

Any thought of discomfort or stress is an alarm that lets you know you’re believing an untrue thought — Byron Katie

Spare yourself from seeking love, approval, or appreciation-from anyone. And watch what happens in reality, just for fun. — Byron Katie

As long as you think that the cause of your problem is out there – as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering – the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise. — Byron Katie

Fear has only two causes: the thought of losing what you have or the thought of not getting what you want. — Byron Katie

An uncomfortable feeling is not an enemy. It’s a gift that says, Get honest; inquire. We reach out for alcohol, or television, or credit cards, so we can focus out there and not have to look at the feeling. And that’s as it should be, because in our innocence we haven’t known how. So now what we can do is reach out for a paper and a pencil, write thought down, and investigate. — Byron Katie

Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror. — Byron Katie

Pay close attention to the particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness. — Byron Katie

It is easy to be swept away by some overwhelming feeling, so it’s helpful to remember that any stressful feeling is like a compassionate alarm clock that says, You’re caught in the dream. — Byron Katie

If I had a prayer, it would be this: God, spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation. Amen. — Byron Katie

The world is nothing but my perception of it. I see only through myself. I hear only through the filter of my story. — Byron Katie

The only thing you fear is the unreality that you yourself have invented. — Byron Katie

Stress is an alarm clock that lets you know you’re attached to something not true for you. — Byron Katie

The whole planet is waiting for someone to do it first — Byron Katie

We’re all looking for love, in our confusion, until we find our way back to the realization that love is what we already are. — Byron Katie

Nothing belongs to me. Everything comes and goes. Serenity is an open door. — Byron Katie

It only takes one clear person to have a good relationship. — Byron Katie

You can’t have your daughter as long as you have a concept of her. When you get rid of the concept, you meet your daughter for the first time. That’s the way this works. — Byron Katie

We never make a decision. When the time is right, the decision makes itself. — Byron Katie

Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do. — Byron Katie

When you think that someone or something other than yourself needs to change, you’re mentally out of your business. — Byron Katie

Reality – the way that is, exactly as it is, in every moment – is always kind. It’s our story about reality that blurs our vision, obscures what’s true, and leads us to believe that there is injustice in the world. I sometimes say that you move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer. — Byron Katie

You can’t have an up without a down. You can’t have a left without a right. This is duality. If you have a problem, you must already have the solution. The question is, do you really want the solution, or do you want to perpetuate the problem? — Byron Katie

Every single human being is trying his best. We’re all doing the best we can. But when we believe what we think, we have to live out those thoughts. When there’s chaos in our heads, there’s chaos in our lives. When there’s hurt in our thinking, there’s hurt in our lives. Love thy neighbor as thyself? I always have. When I hated me, I hated you. That’s how it works. If I hate someone, I’m mistaking them for me, and solutions remain hidden. — Byron Katie

I’ve heard people say that they cling to their painful thoughts because they’re afraid that without them they wouldn’t be activists for peace. “If I feel peaceful,” they say, “why would I bother taking action at all?” My answer is “Because that’s what love does.” To think that we need sadness or outrage to motivate us to do what’s right is insane. As if the clearer and happier you get, the less kind you become. As if when someone finds freedom, she just sits around all day with drool running down her chin. My experience is the opposite. Love is action. — Byron Katie

Our job is unconditional love. The job of everyone else in our life is to push our buttons. — Byron Katie

We are never really in control. We just think we are when things happen to be going our way. — Byron Katie

Until the mind is open, the heart stays closed. The open mind is the key to the open heart. — Byron Katie

Peace doesn’t require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there. — Byron Katie

In the fall, you don’t grieve because the leaves are falling and dying. You say, Isn’t it beautiful! Well, we’re the same way. There are seasons. We all fall sooner or later. It’s all so beautiful. And our concepts, without investigation, keep us from knowing this. It’s beautiful to be a leaf, to be born, to fall, to give way to the next, to become food for the roots. It’s life, always changing its form and always giving itself completely. We all do our part. No mistake. — Byron Katie

If your happiness depends on your children being happy, that makes them your hostages. So stay out of their business, stop using them for your happiness, and be your own happiness. And that way you are the teacher for your children: someone who knows how to live a happy life. — Byron Katie

Since the past is unreal and the future is unreal, all your thoughts are about nothing. — Byron Katie

Bottom line is, if someone says something about me and it upsets me, it’s true. — Byron Katie

The most important relationship is the mind’s relationship with itself. In other words, the ultimate – and, really, the only – relationship you have is the relationship with your own thoughts. — Byron Katie

I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don’t feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless. — Byron Katie

If you want real control, drop the illusion of control; let life have you. It does anyway. You’re just telling yourself the story of how it doesn’t. — Byron Katie

Just keep coming home to yourself, you are the one who you’ve been waiting for. — Byron Katie

No one has ever been angry at another human being-we’re only angry at our story of them. — Byron Katie

What is perfect health? The unraveling of all imagined states of mind — Byron Katie

A lover of what is looks forward to everything: life, death, disease, loss, earthquakes, bombs, anything the mind might be tempted to call ‘bad.’ Life will bring us everything we need, to show us what we haven’t undone yet. Nothing outside ourselves can make us suffer. Except for our unquestioned thoughts, every place is paradise. — Byron Katie

If you knew how important you are, you would fragment into a billion pieces and just be light. — Byron Katie

Until you can see everything in the world as your friend, your work is not done. — Byron Katie

No-one can disappoint you, only your thoughts about them can — Byron Katie

When you believe that your problem is caused by someone or something else, you become your own victim. — Byron Katie

People who believe their unquestioned thoughts cannot see what is obvious and directly in front of their faces at all times, because they are invested in what they believe to be true. As long as they live out of an unquestioned mind, they must continue to argue with what they believe is happening rather than the reality of what is really happening. — Byron Katie

It’s not what happens in life that bothers us. It’s what we’re believing about it that bothers us. — Byron Katie

Everyone is a mirror image of yourself-your own thinking coming back to you. — Byron Katie

It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine — Byron Katie

If you think the cause of your problem is ‘out there,’ you’ll try to solve it from the outside. Take the shortcut: solve it from within. — Byron Katie

What you’re believing in the moment creates your suffering or your happiness. — Byron Katie

A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years. — Byron Katie

Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be cause by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility. It’s only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I’m the one who’s hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don’t have to get someone else to stop hurting me. I’m the one who can stop hurting me. It’s within my power. — Byron Katie

I stopped waiting for the world to give me what I wanted; I started giving it to myself. — Byron Katie

The mind’s job is to validate what it thinks. — Byron Katie

How do I know it was meant to happen this way? Because it did. — Byron Katie

When they attack you and you notice that you love them with all your heart, your Work is done. — Byron Katie

If your beliefs are stressful and you question them, you come to see that they aren’t true – whereas prior to questioning, you absolutely believe them. How can you live in joy when you’re believing thoughts that bring on sadness, frustration, anger, alienation, and loneliness? — Byron Katie

When we believe in our thoughts, when we tell ourselves a story, we suffer. ‘My husband doesn’t respect me.’ ‘I should be thinner.’ Those are stories. When there’s no story, there’s no suffering. — Byron Katie

You’ve never reacted to someone else. You project meaning onto nothing. And you react to the meaning you’ve projected — Byron Katie

The ego is terrified of the truth. And the truth is that the ego doesn’t exist. — Byron Katie

The Work reveals that what you think shouldn’t have happened should have happened. It should happened because it did, and no thinking in the world can change it. This doesn’t mean that you condone it or approve of it. It just means that you can see things without resistance and without the confusion of your inner struggle. No one wants their children to get sick, no one wants to be in a car accident; but when these things happen, how can it be helpful to mentally argue with them? We know better than to do that, yet we do it, because we don’t know how to stop. — Byron Katie

It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem. — Byron Katie

Nothing you believe is true. To know this is freedom. — Byron Katie

You either believe what you think or you question it. There’s no other choice. — Byron Katie

We cannot see what we don’t believe. — Byron Katie

There is nothing that isn’t true if you believe it; and nothing is true, believe it or not. — Byron Katie

When we love what is, it becomes so simple to live in the world. The world is exactly as it should be. — Byron Katie

No one has ever been able to control his thinking, although people may tell the story of how they have. I don’t let go of my thoughts-I meet them with understanding. Then they let go of me. — Byron Katie

Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them — Byron Katie

Love is action. It’s clear, it’s kind, it’s effortless, and it’s irresistible. — Byron Katie

To understand our own thinking is to understand all thinking. — Byron Katie

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