Gratitude while grieving

When some things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for the many things that are going right.

It was no easy feat to try and find things I was grateful for after losing my baby girl just hours after bringing her into this world. In my darkest moments all I could do was think of the pain I felt and how I couldn’t imagine it ever going away. What did I have to be grateful for now that my soul was crushed and life as I knew it was over? It took me awhile before I felt like I could be grateful for anything again. Due to the grief, being happy and grateful also meant feeling like I was doing something wrong because how can one be happy when their child just died?

After a few months, I realized that despite my broken heart I still had things to be grateful for. My sister in law came to visit me and brought me a beautiful journal to do with what I wished. I decided to turn it into a gratitude journal. I started writing every day everything I was grateful for. Even the things most people don’t think about. Day after day the task became easier and my lists got longer and longer. After a short time my focus turned primarily to all that I have instead of everything I didn’t have. That of course included my precious daughter. I became so grateful for the few hours I had with her, for the 8 months she grew inside of me, for the legacy that she left with not just our family but in others lives as well. I no longer could focus on her death, but instead her life.

Thanks to gratitude it lessened my grief and changed my perspective about life significantly. Gratitude overall has made me a happier person and has given my life purpose. I have found that I can deal with anything that comes my way and the feeling is absolutely amazing!

Try it for yourself by commenting and telling us what you are grateful for!

Follow my journey through loss here.

16 thoughts on “Gratitude while grieving”

  1. I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby daughter, but also so very grateful for every moment you had with her. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story. Every moment we live is a precious gift. Gratitude is what continues to give my life meaning since my beautiful kind loving son passed away. I am so very grateful for every moment I shared with him and he continues to bless my life every day. Peace and love to you.

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  2. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful post. What you shared made me realise that I should be grateful for the things I have rather than mourn over things that I don’t have. I have been in grief over the loss of my mother for the past couple of years, each time blaming myself for her passing and really punishing myself. I failed to see the beautiful memories that we had. Your post reminded me of that. I shall start a gratitude journal just like you. 🙂

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    • Angeline thank you so much and I’m so sorry to hear about your Mother. Grief can have that hold on us, punishing us and making us feel responsible for things we could have never prevented. I hope your gratitude journal gives you the peace you so deserve ❤️❤️

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  3. Sorry for your loss. I am glad you regained your balance and started a beautiful life of gratitude. I also went through some tragedy and opted for the gratitude path. Its amazing realizing all the blessings we have in life. I now live each moment at time realizing that my very life is one of the biggest miracles I have. I wish you the very best in life; love, joy, contentment, miracles etc.

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