Think you can spot an Introvert in a Crowd.

Well, I’m here sipping my tea, well the student type of tea and there’s something about ginger in tea that makes my world spin and I love me some cakes with my tea. My roommate is singing the hell out of her vocal cords and somehow Human by Christina Perri has become her new favorite. I am yet to understand why. She always has her favorite song depending on her emotions or maybe just the words, I know you’re wondering Human? Now? Well she takes long to catch up one of the things we have in common but she takes too long. On the other hand she’s an extrovert and I’m not, speaking of which I’m currently reading Quiet by Susan Cain…The Power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking (told you I take long to catch up!) and am enjoying it. She says a lot of valid points and she’s spot on, she’s a terrific writer too.

The Power of Introverts in a world that can’t stop talking is a book specifically designed for me and for you my other half, the extrovert to try and understand us. This is for the next time you think of dragging us to a party we don’t wanna be a part of, saying things like, ‘it’ll be fun, you’ll love this one’. Now most of the time i have been called boring or a buzz kill, some of you might have but have you ever thought how much effort it took me to just show up knowing very well it is not my kinda place. I have had small talk with people about stuff i deem stupid but i was raised the African way. I was taught to dress up and show up. I was taught never to ignore people and to respect my elders. I was taught to be social and to approach the older person in family functions and ask how he’s holding up. I was taught to be a good guest and when it mattered an entertaining good host. I was taught that even if i don’t like something i should suck it up and do it anyway because respect is important. With that in mind all my life i have been a pretend extrovert because it mattered but as i grow older, I have found myself most times avoiding such situations. I was raised in a society where being an introvert was just not cool or sometimes rude, sitting at the corner of the room and just observing wasn’t normal. Being an extrovert will take you places even right now but we just can’t help ourselves. “Introversion—along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness—is now a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology.Introverts living under the Extrovert Ideal are like women in a man’s world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are. Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we’ve turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform“-Susan Cain.

I am never the person who contributes to conversations unless you ask me to, i just smile and nod but i find strength in my introversion, i say what i need to say when i need to say it. My introversion is an essential part of who i am that is why i will hardly raise my voice or just talk when clearly i don’t have to. I know what it’s like to be called shy or to be picked out of a group because am simply not aggressive enough but again i know the joy of people understanding me and finding the confidence in my voice. I know there’s so many of us out here and the internet and books are mostly our friends and we love it that way so don’t change for nobody.

Let me get back to reading my book, what was i saying about that ginger tea again?

3 thoughts on “Think you can spot an Introvert in a Crowd.”

  1. Being an introvert myself, I can totally relate to your article. Although in general I am happy with my introvert personality, at times (particularly now) it frustrates me to know that, as you put it,”extroverts are going places” while I am still stuck at the same place I was years before. Not fair but it is how it is. This is life.

    • Well, you can still do great things from where you are, you just have to find the strength in you.
      All the best and the world…someone once told me in it’s unfairness that’s how it is fair. I don’t know how true that is but sometimes i think it is.

      • Yes, great things but life is not just about making goals and achieving them. Growth, I agree but the beauty of life lies beyond that. We humans have become like a machine, always trying to be better than yesterday, always trying to win against each other all the while missing the true essence of life, that is to embrace it and simply enjoy your presence. Finding a strength to achieve the great is difficult, but even more so is learning to be calm, at peace, to be on the human side of our existence. In this huge mess of life, we tend to forget that we are after all a being, flesh and blood with emotions and feelings.

        About “in its unfairness that’s how it is fair.”, it is a bitter truth and a wise way to “accept the things you can’t change”, nevertheless it doesn’t help to see/feel the suffering of those who absolutely do not deserve it. But getting to the main point of your article in particular,” being an introvert doesn’t mean we are not humans.”

        Nonetheless, I am not criticizing your article or your opinions but only trying to add my own experience of being an introvert. Naturally I agree with you. Just like you mentioned, I am totally happy with myself and would not want to change for the opposite just for the sake of being (with sarcasm) “cool” as the world puts it.

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