Why it’s Not Selfish to Remove People From Your Life

There comes that point in your life where you realize that some people don’t deserve to be in it, and you choose to take those people out if it. Some people may call that selfish, but I am going to give you some reasons why it is not.

  1. It’s your life

First and foremost the life you live in is your life. You deserve to be happy in your life. If you are putting more effort into someone else’s life than yours, you are going to be miserable. That doesn’t mean don’t be there for others and not help them out, but if it gets to the point where you are practically living someone else’s life for them cause they cant make smart decisions on their own, that isn’t fair to you. At that point, it isn’t your life anymore. Let it be your life again.

  1. Sometimes you grow out of people, and that’s okay

The more you go through life, the more you grow up. You see things everyday that help you morph into the person you are going to become. Everyone grows up at a different pace and that’s okay, but don’t let yourself be held back just so you can keep up with your friends. Let yourself grow. Some people refuse to grow up and keep making dumb decisions. You do not have to make dumb decisions just to fit in with your friends. If all they want to do is make poor decisions and don’t want to hang out with you because you don’t, get rid of them. You do not need that influence in your life.

  1. You can’t change people

As much as we all want to help everyone onto the right path in life, the reality is everyone is going to be what he or she is going to be. You can bring a good influence into someone’s life, but its up to them whether they accept it and bring it into their life. If you do not agree with someone’s life style, don’t be a part of it. It’s that simple. You shouldn’t have to settle your life so somebody else can have a good time in his or hers.

I am currently going through this in my life. I made the decision to get rid of some toxic people in my life, and honestly I’ve never been so happy. Sometimes it feels like you are all alone, but later when only people that genuinely make you happy are surrounding you, it’ll have been so worth it. I had some friends that were great friends for a while, but recently I realized we had grown apart. The sad part is that it took me getting hurt to figure it out.

Alcohol is something that everyone discovers in their lives, and everyone handles it differently. Some people don’t go near it, some people are casual with it, and others can’t seem to live without it. I am one that doesn’t mind being around it, or casually drinking with my friends. I even go to parties every once in a while, but I am not one to end up plastered. In my situation, the people involved cannot seem to live without it. They say they can, but I have yet to see a situation where they can. The saddest part is, one of them I never even pictured this happening to. This person was a great friend for a while, but I can’t afford to be around them anymore at the expense of my future. They were one of the only people I knew that rarely ever drank and still had a great time. Now, that is not the case. It’s sad for me to see how much this old friend has thrown their life away because of alcohol, but I cant get them off of the path, and I need to focus on my future. Taking them out of my life was a very good choice, and since that moment I learned who my real friends are. It also made me realize how many more people I had in my life that were like that and it made me realize that they needed to be gone too.

To some this may still seem selfish. It’s not that I didn’t try to help these people, its that it got to the point where I was miserable, they were hurting me, and I knew it was best to let them go.

To throw this all together, remember this:


2 thoughts on “Why it’s Not Selfish to Remove People From Your Life”

  1. A great read. Thank you for posting it because I honestly needed to confirm (again!) that my life, time and energy is precious and I can no longer carry on putting my feelings aside because of what I fear others might do or say. Alcohol is a very powerful force that somehow causes some people to believe they cannot enjoy themselves without it. Like you, I enjoy a casual drink but I see no need to carry on until you are completely trashed. They tease me because I tell them that I have a little “switch” that clicks over then I know I’ve had enough so I simply stop drinking. Unfortunately, all too often I find myself having to justify my choice to stop. One shouldn’t have to do that with people you call friends. It’s important to take time out and reassess aspects of your life, and that includes clearing out “friends”. Thank you again for this article.


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