There’s a momentary silence in the space between your thoughts that you can become aware of with practice. In this silent space, you’ll find the peace that you crave in your daily life. You’ll never know that peace if you have no spaces between your thoughts… For it is when you merge into the silence and become one with it that you reconnect to your source and know the peacefulness that some call God… tweet
It’s really the space between the notes that makes the music you enjoy so much. Without the spaces, all you would have is one continuous noisy note. Everything that’s created comes out of silence. Your thoughts emerge from the nothingness of silence. Your words come out of this void. Your very essence emerged from this emptiness. tweet
— Dr. Wayne Dyer
How beautiful is this quote, especially the part about music?
I never thought of that. That’s the piece (and peace) that actually struck me and inspired me to use this quote for this post. It’s wonderful. I love that, because it immediately struck me as true. It is the silence between the notes that makes music… well, music. What wonderful distinction each note has as it is played, as there must be silence between them for each note to be distinguished as itself. Played all together, each individual note having its own quality, distinct and not as one long note, the music then has more volume, more richness, more depth. The same can be applied to the quality of a voice singing as well.
And all of this is even more of a reason to choose meditation. Meditation is like music to me, and I’m like a dance when I submit to the stillness.
Okay, a personal story from me…
I walked over 500 miles across Spain. It’s a pilgrimage called The Camino de Santiago. It is one of the most honest journeys of my life. And what was most honest was that I found a new beauty to my temple, to my experience of all that is, to my experience of the Divine, to my experience of me, and even more surprising, my experience of churches. There are so many along the Way. Small, local churches that were built in medieval times, even tinier places only large enough to hold about 60 people in its pews that were built long ago and held such history within them. There were also great, big cathedrals in Burgos and Leon and of course, Santiago de Compostela – the final destination of the pilgrimage and the town in which the Apostle James’ remains are entombed. My experience and transformation are why I carry such a spark and sense of wonder for churches.
My relationship with churches wasn’t the only one transformed. My relationship to myself in meditation was transformed. Before I took this 40-day journey, I thought meditation was only for people who had patience. I thought I had none. Before my journey through the north of Spain, I was not a person who could meditate. And I hated that I couldn’t meditate. Mostly because my mom had done it all throughout my life, as long as I could remember, and I wanted to master being silent in my thoughts desperately because of all the benefits I knew it would provide. But did I know what it would provide? Well, it ended up being what I had read about, what I had experienced of my mom, what I had witnessed in others. There was always such a calm about people as they came out of meditation.
I knew it would be great once I could actually meditate, but it all seemed so elusive to me. I would sit down, and I’d try really hard to have it happen… But it just seemed to frustrate me instead. My thoughts would get louder not more quiet, and they would run faster not slow down. Well, my whole intention with my pilgrimage was to convene more deeply in my relationship to God, and my experience of God. So as I traveled through Spain, I found myself being called more and more and more to find a way through my frustration and meditate.
I began to meditate (well, sit and close my eyes) everywhere. Because there was so much quiet along the path, and through my own willingness, I found it easier and easier to find my focus on my breath. Sometimes there was too much quiet for me, so in those times I remained with my thoughts to keep me company. And then one day… I was in a cathedral in Leon. It was my favorite of all the cathedrals I had visited so far. Something about that cathedral just resonated with me. I had such amazing feelings of wonder, joy, goodness, and love. I fell in love with that church, that temple, that wondrous and beautiful building built with such artistry and affection for its intended honoree.
I found a corner in one of the rooms where pews were placed for folks to come in and sit and pray, or simply be silent. I sat down. I thought about it for a moment, and then I closed my eyes. I let my thoughts about being embarrassed be there in my mind. I let my thoughts about my failure to meditate be there. I let them all, all my thoughts, simply be there. And in a moment, I found silence. I breathed into it. And in that moment, I felt the greatest joy I had ever experienced in my life. It was so beautiful, I immediately began to have thoughts about it.
The moment was over.
Ha! Funny, huh? But that’s how meditation is. That moment for the first time provided me an opportunity to experience that emptiness Dr. Dyer spoke about in the quote above. I was in the space in between. It was amazing. Now, I knew what and where I could reach. I was hooked.
I meditate much more now. It didn’t happen all at once. I have built my practice over years, and… I love my practice. Not because it’s perfect by some standard I’ve seen or heard of. I love it because it’s mine. It fits me. It is my expression of my love for the Divine. I don’t always reach complete silence in my mind. But when I do, it’s always sweet. I meditate whether I reach silence or not. Even if I just slow down my thoughts, I’m always more calm than when I began. I honor my experience, and I honor yours.
Whatever you create will be perfect for you. Find what’s right for you. It will evolve. Don’t worry. It will happen, when you least expect it, and if you simply sit and practice. Or walk and practice. Or wash dishes and practice. There are so many ways to meditate and find your peace.
Upward! And onward.